divorce-619195_640There is trouble in the Pitt-Jolie household. Actress Angelina Jolie has filed for divorce from her husband, actor Brad Pitt. The couple, who met in 2004 on the set of “Mr. and Mrs. Smith”, have had a seven-year relationship, and married in 2014. They have six adopted and natural-born children.

Reports are now emerging that there may, in fact, have been a serious problem:  Brad Pitt, probably drunk according to the celebrity news website TMZ, was seen “abusing” one of his children aboard a private jet. TMZ reports that

“…Sources familiar with the situation tell us, Brad, Angelina and their kids were on a flight last Wednesday when he allegedly got wasted on the private jet. He allegedly went wild, screaming and getting physical with the kids.

We’re told the plane landed at an airport around 8 PM, and witnesses say Pitt continued his rant on the tarmac, and even tried leaving in one of the fuel trucks.

Our sources say someone either on the plane or the tarmac anonymously reported the incident to the L.A. County Dept. of Children and Family Services. We’re told Brad and Angelina have already been interviewed and DCFS plans to interview the kids as well. That investigation is ongoing.”

TMZ reports that Angelina moved out the following day–and that three days later, she filed for divorce.

There are other reports that Brad and Angelina do not share a bedroom–that even when traveling, they book separate rooms. That, in the mind of many, is evidence that the marriage is OBVIOUSLY OVER!! On television, in the media, on social media, in the coffee shop, everyone is talking about the impending divorce. Nowhere have I heard anyone mention the possibility of reconciliation.

I respectfully disagree. The couple could definitely (and should probably) reconcile.

Marriage is hard. Even a strong marriage can be bumpy, with happy times when you can’t stop reaching for one another, and other times–sometimes for months or even years–when the husband and wife feel emotionally distant.

So what?

I know, not everyone nowadays marries in a church wedding, promising before God and their family and friends to love one another “till death do us part.” Some couples choose to pledge their love on a sandy beach, the waves licking at their heels. Others choose a destination wedding. I don’t remember how Brad and Angelina tied the knot, but I’m going to stick my neck out here and make a guess: They were focused on their own pleasure and happiness, on the beautiful ceremony and the ball. They loved one another, they intended to stay together, but neither understood the depth of commitment that would be required to make it work as the  years passed.

So what?

When Brad Pitt left his wife Jennifer Aniston in 2005, I would have–had I paid any attention to movie star stuff–said that the break-up was wrong. Marriage is forever. But break up they did, and Brad went on to build a life with Angelina Jolie, adopting her children and then fathering two others of their own. Now he is there; he is a husband and a father; he is needed.

There are problems, to be sure. Abuse of children (or spouse, or anyone for that matter) is a serious problem, requiring counseling help. Excessive drinking, which apparently spurred the incident on the plane last week, is also a serious problem which must be addressed. There may have been incidents of adultery–although I’ve seen hints, but no confirmation of that.

BUT…. and this is important!… marriage is for keeps. Parenting is for keeps. Moving through the difficult times requires grace, but God is good and will help, if they ask. Because those six children depend on their Dad, as well as their Mom, Brad and Angelina should work through this.

ARE YOU IN A TROUBLED MARRIAGE?  HELP IS AVAILABLE!

For Catholic couples who are struggling in an unfulfilling or difficult marriage, help is available through the Retrouvaille program. Retrouvaille (the word means “rediscover”) offers tools needed to rediscover a loving marriage relationship. Thousands of couples headed for cold, unloving relationships or divorce have successfully overcome their marriage problems by attending the program.

The Retrouvaille Program consists of a weekend experience combined with a series of 6-12 post-weekend sessions over 3 months. It provides the tools to help put your marriage in order again. The main emphasis of the program is on communication in marriage between husband and wife. It will give you the opportunity to rediscover each other and examine your lives together in a new and positive way. It is for couples with marital problems including those who are considering marriage separation and those who are already separated or divorced that want marriage help.

Don’t give up. Don’t divorce. Happiness is possible once again.

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